by Leslie Trotter

Created on: November 21, 2010

Your friends wanted you to take a break from your boyfriend to come with them to dinner and a concert and you declined because your boyfriend rented a couple of movies to watch with you. This has become habit since you met him and your friends are getting very aggravated over this because they are missing hanging out with you.

If you decide to go off with your friends and not spend anytime with your boyfriend, his feelings are hurt or he becomes angry with you and send you on a guilt trip making you feel sorry for him. You feel that this is punishment for you going off and having a good time with your friends.

Your friends have stopped calling you to do things because they assume calling you and asking you if you want to hang out with them is a waste of time because you will automatically choose to do something with the boyfriend instead. You feel like you are between a rock and a hard place and torn between your boyfriend and your good friends. Holding your man while keeping your friends is doable.

Purchase some calendars and mark the days you have plans with your friends on it and give this calendar to your boyfriend, and mark the times down you will be spending with your boyfriend on the other calendars and give to your friends so that they will not disturb you during these times. Don't forget to mark some me time down on the calendars because just as important as it is to spend time with friends and your boyfriend, it is even more important to spend some time by yourself.

If none of your friend or your boyfriend understand that you don't need to be a part of their tug of war, cut into their time with more me time, you need time away from all of that stress. They will eventually start to see that they are stressing you out and give you space, and they will respect your decision with whatever you choose to do.

You can hold on to your man while keeping your friends, just don't let any of them call all of the shots, you are the captain of your own ship and if they can't respect you as the captain of your own ship, they need to be pushed overboard or learn that whatever you choose to do in your life is your choice and not theirs.

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