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The main thing to keep in mind when dealing with life hardships is that you are not the only person suffering or struggling to cope. Life doesn't hold a grudge against you, it is not picking on you, by thinking like this this you will not feel so isolated or alone.

Keep a positive outlook instead of thinking "why does it always happen to me?", just ponder a while and take stock of "why should I be any different and always have a perfect, happy life?". Everyone has days, weeks, months when things don't go how we would like them to, it just happens to be your turn to have a less than pleasant time. Try to think of others who are having a worst time than you are, and you will begin to see you are not so unlucky after all.

The amazing thing is that the more positive you are, the less you seem to attract bad luck. The old adages about seeing the glass as being half full rather than half empty and every cloud having a silver lining are very true. Often you find that when you have missed out on something, or have messed up something, very shortly after-wards, another often better opportunity comes along.

When things are really at their worst just take things one step at a time. Often looking at the whole problem can be overwhelming so break it down into tasks and try and complete one task at a time, don't fall into the trap of thinking everything must be perfect. For example, say the house is a mess and the mother in law is coming to visit. Don't worry about cleaning the whole house,concentrate on tidying the main areas, and book a family lunch at a local restaurant. Tell your mother in law you wanted to be able to to spend time with her rather than spending time cooking lunch etc. Each time you complete a task you will feel a surge of accomplishment and optimism, that will carry you through the day. very soon you will find that the problem has eased and become manageable.

Try to build up a support network of family, friends and acquaintances who you can call on for advice and support. Offer to help others who are suffering hardship and you will find they will help you too. Try being the one to make the first move, ask for help instead of being resentful because others are "ignoring you", it may just be that they are so caught up in their own lives and hardships they have not realized you are struggling. No one will help you if you don't appear in need of help and don't make your need for help known.

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