So, you were finally able to ask her to your place and convinced her to sleep with you. Being a guy, you are just itching to show your sex prowess. But wait just a minute. Now will be the time to give her pleasure and to show her that it was worth her while coming and spending the night with you. Make her feel that you are a sensitive, trustworthy and gentle guy which is probably the impression you made to her. If she suddenly realizes that you are a barbaric animal in bed, you may not be able to see her again, or worse, she may suddenly remember that she has to do something and leave you alone.

Check your ambience. While it is important to set the mood by using candles or music, make sure that it is not an obvious overture to sex. For example, don't play music with a women moaning "ooh" and "aah" in the background or a candleholder with a figure of a naked woman.

Hide your props. It may be fine is she sees a playboy magazine in your room. But don't let her know that you have a complete subscription. Also, never ever let her see your magazines with titles like "Bondage Connoisseur" or "Senior Citizens Gone Wild" or anything like that. In addition, if she saw more that you have more than two boxes of condom in your bedside drawer, she might freak out. Better hide away your vibrators, whips, pumps, or whatever gadget you bought at adult store. And no, don't ask her to wear that school girl uniform you think is sexy.

Mind her clothes. When taking off her clothes, do not just throw it on the floor. You can do that with her undies, but take time to make sure you take proper care of her shirts or blouse.

Tone down on your language. Dirty talking may be a huge turn-on for you. However, don't let her hear that you have mastery of porn lingo. Moaning her name softly is fine. Just make sure that it's really her name you are whispering and not the name of your fantasy. Asking her to talk dirty is a big no-no too.

Slow down. Yes, restrain yourself, you animal. Spend lots of time kissing, touching, and playing. Don't get down to business at once.

Just do the basics. You may have mastered all 1001 sexual positions, but don't try to change positions too much. And don't do those exotic positions just because you knew that she took gymnastics when she was in high school. Do not try to re-enact scenes from movies you have seen either.

Show her you care. After sex, don't get up and watch TV. And don't sleep either. Take her in your arms, talk with her or just enjoy the moment being with her.

Remember, the key is to make her comfortable mentally and physically. Make her feel safe, and provide an intimate relationship with her. Make the experience pleasurable and enjoyable for her so that she would want to be with you again and again.

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