by Author Name Withheld 228

Created on: November 04, 2010

Toxic friends can be those you’ve known for ages or people you thought would make a great friend. But as you will soon see. Friends come in many toxic flavors and the unfortunate news is that these aren’t really your friends at all.

The busy friend.

This friend you can count on…zero times in your natural life. They have their own thing going on. Sure you’ve known them for a while since high school, but whenever you need them they are so far away or they have the voicemail pick up your message and get back with you fourteen days later. Who needs a friend like that? Granted a busy lifestyle doesn’t mean friends are no longer your business.

The User friend.

Every falls on hard times. It’s a part of life. But ever have a friend who only knows you when tribulation comes? You’ve wanted to spend time with them, go to the movies, the mall, vacations and they are never really up to it. Or they’ve stuck around during their bad times, but once good times roll around, they  don’t need you anymore? This is a user. Not a friend.

The competitive friend.

No matter what happens in your life, it must be in comparison to theirs. You have a baby, they have to have four, you get married, and they must get married that same year to someone “better than your mate”. What is wrong with this friend? They are competitive. Everything you do, they have to do better . A healthy challenge is great to keep one another sharp and on their toes, but save it for Chess, Checkers, and Monopoly.

The backstabbing friend.

This friend always have some hidden motive for hurting you.  You can’t keep your sanity because they snitch on you; try to seduce your loved one away from you. This is one friend who would give your foes a run for their money.

The gossip.

Everything you tell this friend, it gets put out faster than the daily news on television and the net. This friend has an exceptional gift. The “gossip”, makes it their life to befriend those who have interesting lives. You can never divulge information to this person, because they’ll murder your good name. Sometimes, gossips make up lies to make for juicy gossip and then try to convince l you they are your friend. The best way to spot a gossip? Listen to this person while they speak. If they talk about everyone else and nothing else, nine times out of ten, they’ve spoken about you and your situation to others.

The bottom line is these are not real friends. Toxicity and friendship is an oxymoron. They just don’t go together. Friends are the one family you should feel comfortable with and are always there for you in good times and bad.

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