by Youngbear Roth

Created on: November 04, 2010   Last Updated: December 23, 2010

Self identification with others helps evolve a strong sense of responsibility and love.  Accepting responsibility for your actions and giving and receiving love are fundamental to basic self-esteem because you journey with the realization that you are not alone and as you esteem others they will esteem you.  Self-esteem does not grow in a vacuum.  It is a contagious quality among us.

Evolving as a dynamic, self-conscious being takes faith in one's self; in the infinite, divine universe that you were born out of and carry within your deepest anima.  How does one begin on the journey of faith that leads to healthy self-esteem basics?   Knowing what it takes to fulfill you and going after it requires introspection,  and this process naturally engenders identification with others and their search for satisfaction in life. 

The first step towards making your life your own is making your life your own responsibility. There is a salvaging truth in casting the mortal anvil of blame off your shoulders and taking responsibility; "If I have the power to break it, I have the power to make it whole."  This truth is comforting.  You have taken back the power in your life the moment this simple reality reveals itself.  Meeting a challenge with your own resources and succeeding is a superb self-esteem builder.

The second element required for self-esteem is the certain knowledge that you deserve to be loved; that you have it within to give and receive love. 

Love - as a self-esteem basic - is a practice composed of forgiving, understanding, stepping outside of your finite self-issues to provide compassion to others, and accepting others into your life because you are born of the infinite divine universe and others are a part of the creative condition that makes you who you are and makes possible who you want to be.

Realize that you are a finite aspect of the divine infinite and the basis of this natural cosmological relationship is the will to bond that begins in the cellular resolve of existence.  Love and esteem  the rough; love and esteem  the uneven; love and esteem  the mistaken; love and esteem the lost; for they have all become rough, uneven, mistaken, and lost in search of that which you are searching for – self-esteem.

You have heard it said that, "I don't need him/her to complete me."  You may not need a specific individual at a particular time in your life, but you are only complete because others offer the community support and esteem to complete you.  Your sojourn will never be as an inert stone in a desolate landscape.

Be responsible.  Love without expectation, because love is not a negotiation - it is giving the best part of yourself.   Esteem the divine creation that gave birth to you and you esteem your "self."  Accomplishing our work in this world with true self-esteem, and all that this implies, is the gift of living we give ourselves.

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