by Shely Hanson

Created on: March 07, 2007   Last Updated: April 19, 2007

I am a PROUD military wife and veteran myself, currently going through a deployment as I write. When this began almost 3 months ago, I felt lost with out my husband. I literally did not want to get out of bed. I wanted to sleep until he got home! I was very volitile and emotional. I would have a bad day and by 6pm in the evening, I would be crying my eyes out because I just had NO idea what to do! How do you pick up and carry on your life with out your other half? And to make matters worse, things were NOT well in our marriage before he left.

If you are experiencing an upcoming deployment or in the beginning of a deployment and you feel as if your marriage is on the rocks, remember, there are stresses that you can not ever understand because you are not in your husband or wives shoes. They can talk a big game and say they are not scared, but they are. And the best way that they can cover that up is by fighting with you. It's completely normal. And please show your undieing support to them! Put all your issues aside and take a little abuse if need be and wear a smile through it all. Its not the time to be fighting, they are leaving and you do not want to send them over there in a bad state of mind, worrying about things back home. Show them that you and your kids (if you have them!) will be ok, that you all are happy and let them know that they are your hero!

After the first intial shock of my husband being gone (about a month, I drug it on and on and on) I finally decided that I could NOT live like that until he comes home. So I threw myself, head first, into making HIS life better. I sent him a care package full of all the things he liked from back home, such as magazines, cards, cookies (vaccum sealed), kool-aid single packs etc... anything that I could possibly dream of to make his life over there a little bit more bearable! I spent almost a week shopping and dreaming up new ideas of things that I could send him (its harder than you think) and put it all together and sent it off. Crazy enough, this occupied my time and made me feel closer to him.

SO the next week I started thinking about things I could get him for Valentines Day. Except why just send it to him? He had told me about 2 good friends over there, they didnt get much, I think I will send them something for Valentines day too! After all I DO support ALL the troops and not JUST my husband! And I asked my husband one night when he called if he thought that would be ok and he said yeah sure, but I am

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