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Do you ever get in a fight with your family that you just don't want to quit? Here are some tips I've used to release my anger, end the fight and forgive.

Fighting Kindly
When you're in the fight it's not always right to give up right away but yelling is never going to get the message through and ladies tears can help loosen up the men but it's best to just try to speak calmly over a cup of coffee. It's not always easy to remain calm and cool but as long as you do you're more likely not to regret the things that you say to you're loved one.

Dealing With Anger
Different people deal with anger in different ways. Some need to remove themselves from the situation to have a mental conversation on how they plan to deal with the problem then talk to the person later. Others like to confront the person they are mad at and talk about the problem immediately. It doesn't matter which way you do it but confronting the problem is the only way to deal with it.

Apologize Even if Your Right
Depending on the situation I wouldn't always advise this but sometimes the argument is just not worth fighting about. The first person to say sorry always feels they have surrendered even if they were right in the first place but if you truly love the person and all you really want is to end the argument saying sorry proves you are strong enough to put aside your anger. This alone is something few of us are able to do but it's worth it, it really is.

Let It Go
Sometimes it seems someone has done something that is 'unforgivable' but there's nothing anyone can ever do that you can't forgive. Even if what they've done has really ruined something for you forgiveness is a choice. You can forgive the person or hold a grudge. If someone stole your building block in grade one or if someone broke up your marriage and took your beloved away both or a choice. Changes are you forgave your playmate in grade one and overlooked it as childhood behavior but depending on who you are you may or may not have forgave the second. If you choose to have anger built up inside of you raising your blood pressure, causing depression or anxiety. Do yourself a favor, think about this is hurting yourself really putting revenge on the person that your mad at? The choice is up to you. Once you've made it there's no looking back you can't blame the person 10 years down the road for a problem you addressed today.

These are some of the guidelines that have helped me through fights because if you live with another person chances are you will get into them. Whether it's about someone leaving the toilet seat up or some serious betrayal you can address either one if you know how to deal with it.

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