by Buckytat

Created on: March 06, 2007   Last Updated: January 08, 2008

Twenty four years of living life has already taught me a lot. Although I have many more years to live and much more to learn, I made many decisions which made me learn the hard way. Although learning the hard way is not the most pleasant, it can often be the best way to learn.

Some lessons I have learned:

*It is not the way that others act that matters. It is your reaction to their actions, and learning not to act the same way as them.

*If you look at the glass as half empty, it will be. If you look at is as half full everything will be much easier to handle.

*Crying on front of other people and letting them see your emotions does not help...it can often hinder.

*When someone starts an illegitimate argument with you.....keep your mouth shut and walk away. They are obviously not smart or logical so you may as well save breath that will be wasted arguing back.

*If someone hurts you, feel sorry for them because they don't understand but don't ever get close enough to them again so that they can hurt you again...intentionally or unintentionally.

*Revenge is irrelevant.

*If you are in a relationship with someone who does not challenge you in any way, end it. Someone will get hurt and bad feelings may fester once the frustration is too much to handle.

*Smile as much as you can whether you are smiling in the inside or not. It puts others in a better mood, it makes you look better and sometimes it can make you feel better as well.

*Be honest with people, especially in relationships. If you hide who you are, you won't know if they like the real you...and hiding is too much stress. If you are up front with them and they don't like it then they are not someone you want to get involved with. To thine own self be true!

*Material things should never define you.

*Do what YOU are comfortable with. If you are letting other people run your life, you are not truly experiencing life to the fullest.

*If you love someone, you will compromise for them. If they love you, they will do the same. A relationship should never be full of frustration and arguments.

*You need to know yourself and be comfortable with yourself before you can engage in a successful relationship. You can not love someone else if you do not first love yourself.

*Never be afraid to admit when you are wrong, people will respect you more, not less. And admit if you need help-especially professional help-you find life much easier to handle and understand.

*Do as much as you can for yourself. Then, when you do ask for help others will not mind helping you out.

*Eliminate any ideas, mindsets and thoughts which cause you stress.....they obviously are not doing you any good.

*Following the lives of celebrities and addictions to tv shows are a waste of time. They are all people just like you, so get out there and live your own life!

*Never put the blame on someone else. You are your own person, you are the one who did it, no one else is responsible for your screw ups, so own up and if you don't like who you are then change!

LIVE. LOVE. LEARN. SMILE. LAUGH. UNDERSTAND.

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