Along the road of dreams we awaken to realize a lot of which we have wished for, was not essential to our needs. All too often we are misled of being competent and aware of our own true being, and a large portion of that which we have wanted, wished for, or dreamed of, was instead produced in vain.
We, being all of us are affected, polluted if you will to one degree or another by our conscious mind, referred to our consciousness. Thus as a result of our awareness to our surroundings, we are directly influenced by people, places, and things to which we seek acceptance, and search amidst such Earthly affairs to find our "true" selves, or our significance in short.
Although this seems a natural act, by which we coincide with one another, truly this is both a blessing, and a curse.
Certainly no-one likes to be left out, cast away, or worse unlikable by the natural order of our being. Especially by, or beginning with our families, friends, amongst society, nor in essence by the world for the matter.
Unfortunately, we allow ourselves to seek the reward, the gratification, from one another, such as through love and the extenuating part-time benefits found within. As such is so, the same principles on a more minuscule level, whereas we reduce to something as brief as a compliment regarding something we have done, or specific quality we possess as individuals, and systematically by instinct we sub-consciously react to the influences thereof.
Don't get me wrong these are merely two examples that everyone has experienced amongst the millions of emotional scenarios relevant, that contribute to the numerous underlying scars that impale us, without us ever acknowledging they have affected us sub-consciously. As such, our emotions have played a huge role in formulating our individual characteristics, our behavioral patterns, and the habits we all share, they are undeniably linked to our emotional state of mind, and contribute to our current being today.
Imagine this for example: as the day goes by, you in your natural order of events receive (5) compliments on your attire, (3) compliments regarding your new car, and (1) compliment referring to what beautiful eyes you have.
Ultimately, this we can chalk up as a good day, and in all do fairness we allow ourselves to accept this as healthy, or at least most of us see it as a win, do we not?
Of course we do, for a lot of us this is what we live for. After all, if someone else recognizes us, and we are worthy of them commending us, we naturally love, or in the least like to hear it, because it makes us feel good.
to hear and see people acknowledging us, accepting us, truly seems beneficial to our being, and emphatically makes us feel normal, complete, and produces a sense of wholeness, an awareness that we are just, and allows us the ability to ratify ourselves. Compliments tend to build us up, whereas we can subtly ingest the rewards of our good deeds.
Naturally there are those who over-indulge and allow themselves to become arrogant, egotistical, or to the degree of being pompous, this is not exactly healthy, yet to each their own.
Carrying onward through the fog,we have established the natural order, the majority of us often find a subtle compliment as a contributing factor to our being happy. Thus we almost all believe, and agree this is good, and something we welcome in our lives.
With that being said, now let's explore the flip side to that coin, by which the`next day, I would like you for you to imagine quite the opposite. Therefore, on this day (5) people insult your attire, (2) people insult your car by way of telling you, they too owned that make an model car, and proceed to tell you what a pile of junk it really is, and then to top it off, you smile at (1) person whom verbally unleashes on you by which they insult you, by saying your plumb ugly, and keep your eyes to yourself!
Whoa! Bad day written all over it, huh?
Well needless to say we incur days like these as well, and only if we allow it, truly it can alter our being (which most of us do at one time or another) and occasionally we inadvertently tend to allow certain insults to almost consume us. A day like this can also have adverse effects on our emotions, our mind set, and all too often we concern ourselves enough to get aggravated, annoyed, even angry. We all react differently, for some of us get depressed, or it can even prompt an anxiety attack for those who absorb too deep momentarily in the thought, or it can spawn a feeling of rejection.
Which then would you prefer compliment or insult?
Now imagine since your infancy the calculative number of emotions you have gone through up to this point based on compliment or insult, influenced or inflicted upon you by everyone who has conceivably contributed essentially to your life, up to this current moment.
If at all possible try to answer who you see yourself as? Who are you? What have you become?
throughout the years we all grow older, and as such we seem to drift away from that childhood innocence, and the freedoms within that change us into adults. Our responsibilities tend to be much more demanding, and thus in meeting those demands, they can almost rob us in essence of our ability to stay focused on doing the things we enjoy, our passions, and of our hearts - which fuel our dreams.
This may very well be the greatest insult to us in our lives. All too often, the robbery goes unnoticed as we mature, while we adapt trying to meet the demands of our financial responsibilities, and somehow a lot of us - in going with the flow, awaken to the realization that we are no longer living spiritually free, at least not enough to explore the pleasures of following our passions, and deepest desires wrought within us. This is a common sacrifice nearly all of us has, or had to make, and caused a turning point in our lives from true freedom to conformity.
Personally, I was once guilty of such a calamity, and have since determined life is way too short, time is too precious, and my dreams are way too huge to conform to society any longer. Perhaps society values conformity, but if you invest more into what society deems worthy, and base who and what you are as a result; I personally pity you! Live for your dreams, follow your heart, and be yourself.