by Amelia Randall

Created on: October 01, 2010

This question can lead to a lot of problems. A lot of people will agree and disagree. Of course there are two ways of looking at it, sex is ok on a first date, or sex is wrong on a first date.

Some people would say that if you have sex on the first date, then you have no self control, you are low in confidence and you are letting yourself down. A lot of people would frown upon you and say you are in-pure. It is said, that if you give someone what they want on the first date, they have no reason to come back again, but we all know that if they enjoy what they were getting and they like you, then they will be back again.

Some people would say that having sex on the first date is fun. When you truly feel a desire with someone, why not? Why should we not sleep with someone when we are attracted to them, if we are both consenting, after all we are old enough to know what it is that we want and need. It is natural to feel attracted to people and sex does not have to be made to feel dirty and wrong if you are not married to the person or have been in a year long relationship.

So let us think a moment. How many times have we felt a desire towards someone and not really knowing them or knowing why? How many of these times, would you have loved to have had the courage to just get them into a quiet place and slept with them? So what stopped you? Everything about that moment felt right, you wanted it, they wanted it, your whole bodies were wanting each other and it could have been a great experience and could have lead to more encounters with each other. Why would that have been wrong? Because so and so down the road believes it is immoral and has only ever been with their partner! It is ok if they feel they can not be with anyone else, but it is also ok if you want to be with other people before settling down. That first date sex could lead to a lifetime together!

Sure, as you get older, you can start to wonder whether all the sex was worth it now that you are single and you can wonder whether no sex on the first date would have made your relationship stronger, but no sex would not have changed the problems your relationship faced. Sex or no sex on the first date is not responsible for dishonesty and hurt within a relationship[ and is not the reason why the guy never came back again. So do as you feel is right for you and don't let anyone make you feel like what you are doing is wrong, because if you are true to yourselves, then it is not wrong.

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