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Love. That irrational, yet rational feeling. The only feeling that brings us both joy and sorrow at the same time.

We all experience the joy and sorrow of love at one point or another in our lives. The sorrow that accompanies heartbreak is like a rite of passage. You can't get past your teens without experiencing it. Just like with learning to walk, we all fall victim to heartbreak at one point or another in our lives. We hurt, we cry, we vow to never let anyone hurt us ever again, but eventually some of us get back up and risk getting hurt again just for the honor of giving and receiving love.

Others, unfortunately, aren't as daring. They get burned and their capacity to love, live, and laugh withers away along with their ability to trust people to get close enough to their hearts for them to feel alive again. They often become bitter, resentful and cynical about love and about trusting anyone enough to let real love in. They become jaded to the point of overlooking real possibilities for a loving and caring relationship. In fact, they become so jaded that when they do encounter the possibility of love, they sabotage their own chances at ever being happy in love again. Who is cheating who out of happiness and fulfillment here? The person that burned left eons ago, and yet the person burned continues to allow that individual to impact their lives by taking from them their capacity to fully love and receive love. Who's hurting who in this scenario, and who is deriving satisfaction from the burned person's pain and inability to let go of past pain and sorrow so that they can become whole enough to embrace love again?

Let me share a little secret with you, regardless of the history you had with the person that burned you, or the promises of unending love they made to you, the fact that they're not with you now is a clear indication that they weren't THE ONE. They've moved on and you're still stuck in limbo, moving from relationship to relationship, and never ever really feeling complete or a part of that relationship. You rationalize that it's because the person that left is the only one that can make you happy; that he or she was the only one that could add spice to your life. This type of rationalization is a form of denial and self-sabotage that provides an excuse for not developing the courage to move on. It's time to give yourself a break. To get a whiff of the morning coffee that's been brewing in your kitchen for quite some time now and to begin to live again.

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