by Maggie O'Cala

Created on: September 21, 2010   Last Updated: October 06, 2010

Marriage vows have changed little from the time they were first created. Through centuries, progress and the changes in society, the vows have stayed pretty much the same. Why is that? How could vows that were written many lifetimes ago still be pertinent in the present day? Very few things stand the test of time. Could marriage vows be one of those?

A few words have been modernized and "obey" was removed from many versions but for the most part the meaning remains the same. To love and honor in good times and bad til death do you part. Simplistic vows that hold enormous meaning. One that is present in the endless variations that people have personalized for their own ceremonies.The basic vows are the foundation that marriages are built on. A guideline that we follow.

The original vows are timeless because they give voice to what people want and expect in their marriage. Almost nothing has changed over the centuries. We want to be loved and honored. We want our spouse to stay with us when life is difficult as well as in the good times. We want them to stand by us when we are struck with illness. We want our marriages to last a lifetime with death being the only thing that can bring it to an end. These are all things that our distant ancestors hoped for just as we hope for them today. The basic needs and desires that humans have remain the same.

Despite all of the events that have taken place, all of the changes that have occurred and the moral decline of society people still want the fairy tale ending. To join their life with another and find happiness. Almost everyone craves connection. We were made to go two by two, not solo. The vows offer us a promise for that happy ending we desire so strongly. While some go back on their word, break the vows and leave there are many more who choose to honor the vows they took.

Wedding ceremonies have changed a lot over time. The possibilities are endless. Regardless of the bride's dress, the theme chosen, music played or what type of flowers are included, the same basic ingredient is present at all of them. Promises made, vows spoken aloud and the desire to have the marriage last. That is why vows are just as pertinent today as they were long ago.

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