by Kristen Nolen

Created on: September 16, 2010   Last Updated: September 17, 2010

Hello Ladies,

First off I am going to start off by letting you all know that , if you are going through the nightmare that I went through (TWICE!) you are not  alone.. It is not your fault ! The hell of wondering and feeling that the man you love secretly may be homosexual is a seriously traumatic experience. I want you all to know that it is more common than you think.

One thing that I say pretty commonly is , "out of all of the men in the world in which we know are gay , and that openly admit that they are gay , .. That is probably only about half of the actual gay male population.. The other half are married with children." And many of them never "come out" or admit the truth..

I am not going to go on and on  and say things that have already been said.. I just want to share something with you all that is sure to work .. This I know from experience.. I did it myself. And you all could do it too if you really want to know the truth. This is something that should not be shared with men.. This is something that I know is going to get out fast and will only work  as long as we allow it to..We should try to think of the well being of eachother and remember how it feels to go through this pain . I think that we should try to stop the pain from having to be endured by other women if possible .. SO DONT TELL MEN!

ACT LIKE YOU LIKE IT ! All you have to do if you really want to know is casually start hinting in little ways (at first ) that you are starting to get this weird fetish all of the sudden.. You have to make it sound serious and convincing but not over the top..One good way to initiate the topic would be something like," Babe you would never believe the dream I had last night, It was so strange.. I dreamt that you and Al had a sexual encounter.. The crazy thing is, still right now as I'm telling you this, I'm still getting all hot thinking and imagining it. It's tripping me out!" Or if you are watching something on T.V suggesting showing anything sexual with two men, say under your breath (as if you don't want him to hear you) , "That's hot." You have to make it seem as though this really excites you .. But make it seem as though your not trying to publicize this.. Like you are kind of on the DL about it like you embarrassed say it or like you don't want everyone to know.. If you do this it will make appear very welcoming to him because you are kind of on his level .. He doesn't want everyone to know that he is gay so if you act as if you like homosexuality but you are not sharing this with anyone else he will then feel more comfortable with sharing the same feelings with you .. 

This posting is made solely for the use and hopefully for the benefit of women who JUST WANT TO KNOW THE TRUTH..

Lastly , I cannot stress this enough. Never neglect , abandon, disregard your intuition.. Follow your gut ALWAYS.. IT is right. And that's why that "gut feeling " is there.. It was a gift given to us to guide us . Use it .. Good luck and hang in there .. It gets better ..

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