by Colette Duval

Created on: September 15, 2010   Last Updated: September 17, 2010

Believing in the existence of soulmates is like believing in God. We don't know, but there is a definite sense that two people can be connected in a way that goes beyond the here and now.  It is this sense that sets other relationships apart from a soulmate relationship.       

Throughout the course of our lives we may meet a few or even many people who we feel an instant connection with , or even love, or fall in love with . We share interests, we find ourselves being on the same ' wavelength ' and relate easily , we share intimacy , develop trust and feel supported.  We may get married to someone for all those very reasons and even live happily ever after. This is the path most people will take and not even question whether they are with the right person or their soulmate. Because : until you meet him or her, you cannot know that two people can be connected on a level which reaches beyond everything we have so far experienced.

What sets soulmates apart from other relationships are a number of things. First of all, there is an instant recognition. Even after a first conversation with that person and not knowing  likes or dislikes, interests , tastes - there is a sense that we know that person at his or her very core.  We look at their face and into their eyes, but we see them with much more than our eyes, we can look straight into their soul.

Soulmate relationships develop very quickly, because they can skip the introduction part , there is no need to warm up and feel one's way around , everything is already in place. There is no wondering whether the other person feels the same way about us, because we know that  this kind of connection can only exist if it is mutual.

Like any other normal relationship though, soulmates go through ups and downs, have arguments, disagree and sulk. After all, these are real people with different personalities and problems and life experiences. In fact, being able to disagree and argue is a healthy part of any relationship. Sometimes the harmony we feel with our soulmate seems temporarily lost, but we can be sure that it will return because at the deepest level of our being we are in harmony. 

With our soulmate we can experinece what it is like to feel ' whole', even when we never realized before that anything was missing. If our life was a 5000 piece jigsaw, one missing piece won't make much of a difference- until that missing piece is found and suddenly the picture is complete.

With a soulmate it is easy to be ourself, to not have to play a part, to say things that would not be understood by others , to speak in a language that doesn't require eloquence or carefully selected words. Soulmates share a vocabulary and a language that often simply has to hint and touch or be completely silent....and it will be understood.

Yet the main characteristic of a soulmate relationship is this: A sense that this world will not end it, that death cannot seperate you because it is a connection based in the spiritual world. You share a level of being that is truly ' out of this world'. To many this may sound ridiculous, and so we tend not to talk about it to others, but you and your soulmate know this, and that is enough.

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