by Bengali Prince

Created on: September 15, 2010   Last Updated: September 17, 2010

Which side will you choose?  It's really not up to you, like people say, but it's up to you and your family together.  Marriage is a decision that solely rests with the family as a whole.  I'll be honest, at first I wasn’t into this arranged marriage thing but after a while, after experiencing “love” with the wrong girl, I realized that knowing the girl's family does make a difference.

Arranged marriages are seen as a barbaric practice where young girls are forced into marriage, and having male counterparts who are way older than them.  Let's have a reality check here, this isn't Afghanistan where it happens 80% of the time, it's Bangladesh, an open society country where love and peace is tolerated.  By the way I don't mean any insult to Afghanistan is; I was referring to the Taliban and the tribal ways.

The differences between arranged marriages and love marriages expand to certain degrees based on the couple; however, I'll stick with the basics.  Unlike love marriages, in arrange marriages you have no expectations, as in if there is a flaw in your partner's character or habits then it's not much of a big deal because you don't know that person that well before hand.  And you are sure that your partner's family isn't corrupt or anything of that sort because your parents or relatives have already done their background checks on them.  And whenever there is disagreement between you and your spouse, you will surely have the support and counseling from other family members since they arranged your marriage.  With love marriage, you're not going to have that much support if you fought for your love.

Am not against love marriages because everyone has their own choices of the type of marriages they want but I see more success with arranged marriages.  I believe that not knowing a person that much saves a lot of arguments after marriage.  I don't want to get bored with my wife; I want to explore her personality, interest, character, and so wouldn't want to spoil the fun by talking to her night and day on the phone.  I never realized but that's one of the great things about arranged marriages, you'll have your entire life to get to know your partner.  It's also the same with love marriages but being on the phone all night with your lover before marriage, isn't going to make things that fun after marriage.

Arranged marriages nowadays are not the same as the ones in the early years and that's

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