by Stephanie Fuller

Created on: September 13, 2010

What women really want, is a man who is dashingly handsome, has an amazing and well groomed physique, a university degree, excellent credit, great paying job, money in the bank, and, well, you get the point. This kind of list could go on and on. These are all wants that many women have in mind when thinking about what the perfect man should be. But then ladies you must ask yourself this one question; How superficial are these wants? Looks and the body eventually begin to fade and wither as time goes on. And that university degree that got him that great paying job may not mean anything if his company downsizes because of the economy. Then there goes the money in the bank that he so diligently saved along with his excellent credit that bought the two of you your big home. All of the wants that you wanted in your man are gone...what is left? Do you even know who he is now. Do you know his true character? Now let me tell you what you really want in a man.

What you really want is someone who can truly, 100%, love and accept you for who you are no matter what happens in this world. A man who is in it for the long run, a man who is still in it when everything that this world holds dear falls apart, a man who is willing to do his best for his woman and family, and a man who tells the truth and does the right thing even when no one else understands it. Ladies, these are the qualities that you really want. They are the things that really matter. These qualities are intangible. In other words, when all the tangible things are gone like your money, your house, your great bodies, these are the qualities that you want to be left. Underneath the superficial exterior that we think makes us who we are should be qualities that can get you through life's struggles, challenges, and wonderful times.

This is the kind of man that I have found and today while asking myself this question it made me realize how lucky I am to have him. He still loves my body even after two pregnancies in 3 1/3 years has taken its toll on me. When he met me I was 115 lbs and today he is still so attracted to me, all 170 lbs of me. When he lost his job three years ago and there was no work to be found in the field that he was qualified in, he took a highly underpaid job doing the only thing he could find, delivering sandwich's and pizza's. He gave up and sold things that meant a lot to him just to make sure that our new family had food to eat and a place to stay. And when our fights became to much to handle and I wanted to call it quits he sat me down, told me that he still loved me, and said "I'll borrow money from my parents so we can go to counseling because I just don't want to lose you".

When I look back at all of the wonderful and sad memories that we have shared it gives me tears of joy because I love this man. What I love about him is his character. I love what is left. The superficial has been stripped away and I realize that the things that I really wanted in a man I got. He is my provider, my protector, my lover, my acceptor, my husband, and my best friend. Is it always perfect? No, its not. But I got what really counts. Ladies, do you know what really counts? Do you know what you really want in a man?

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