by Edan Wright

Created on: September 13, 2010   Last Updated: December 13, 2010

    The most dangerous type of affair your spouse can be having. That is what an emotional affair is. Most people don't understand emotional affairs and often don't consider them when suspecting infidelity. This is a huge mistake. Like a snake in the grass, this type of infidelity can sneak up on you and devour your relationship before you ever knew it was coming or had a chance to defend yourself.

     A cheating husband or wife is often seeking a sexual relationship with another. This can be repaired if you try hard enough. Someone who is carrying on an emotional affair is already gone. They are developing a bond with another person. More often than not it is a deep, passion filled bond that develops without actually sleeping with someone. You will often find this in chat based settings. You find this with people who have met in the work place or who are meeting other people on-line but not necessarily meeting in person right away. Anywhere where someone has the ability to spend a lot of time with another person but does not have the ability to sneak off and have a sexual relationship. This type of infidelity can cause deep , lasting damage that in many cases can not be repaired.  People who enter these relationships, sometimes by accident often feel as though they have found there soul mate. It is somewhat euphoric and can lead to unhealthy behavior patterns. Matters of the heart are often painful and confusing. Often a person will seek out someone to speak to in confidence, someone who can understand what they are going through. Someone that understands what they are feeling and essentially someone to fill the void in there relationship. They will be honest with that person, never keeping secrets. This person will know the other is married and feel as though they are better for them then there spouse. They will want to fix the other persons emotional issues.  The other person will fully understand, and will be willing to wait. They are falling in love and the lines that should matter will fade.

      The relationship may start out as a friendship and feel somewhat innocent. Many times they do not realize they are developing connections on deeper levels and can be blindsided when they find that they have fallen in love. At that point there is not much you or they can do. People can often feel trapped by not wanting to hurt either party but not wanting to give up the feelings they are feeling either. This

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