by Cheryl Abney

Created on: September 10, 2010

Most everyone has a story to tell of school bullies. Unfortunately, with each new generation it seems that the possibilities for bullying grow. Today, bullies have the internet MySpace, Twitter, Facebook, cell phone texting and more as tools in attacking their victims. Bullies abound at every level, from kindergarten through high school and the work place.

Let’s assume you have noticed that your previously happy, talkative achiever has changed to a sullen introvert whose grades are falling. Approaching your child on their turf – their bedroom – you gently encourage them to talk and you learn that they have an antagonist. You hear of the hard nudges that knock their books or tray out of their hands.  You learn that your child is afraid to go to the restroom for fear they will be cornered and threatened for money, assignments, or whatever the bully deems valuable. They tell you of name-calling, gum in their hair, being tripped, taunted online, and humiliated in front of peers. As the story continues, tears fill your eyes and your mind races to find the words or ideas that will stop anyone from bullying your child.

There is no easy solution. You cannot just kiss it, put a bandage on it and expect it to go away effortlessly. It takes a brave child to confront their opponents and it is the responsibility of parents and school adults to teach children how to deal with bullies. We need to be proactive in combating their meanness. Consider talking about the following guidelines with your child and keeping communication open. You will need to address the topic time and again until you are satisfied the bullying has stopped and your child exhibits peace and happiness.

 Teamwork is needed.

It is a team battle. You and your child need to get their teacher(s), administration, and guidance counselor on board. When you learn your child is a victim, immediately contact your school principal to set up a meeting with the teacher, and guidance counselor. Most schools have a zero-tolerance plan for bullying. Expect that the oppressing child will be reprimanded and told of future consequences like suspension. Depending on the situation, it may be advantageous for the school administrator to contact the other student’s parents so they can also take measures to stem the abuse. If these contacts do not solve the problem, it may call for police intervention. You will want to contact the police immediately, however, if your child shows you physical

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