by Khadim Hussain

Created on: September 07, 2010

Friendship is a noble relationship. It is based on sincerity and selflessness. True friendship is never superficial or fake. However, the traces of selfishness, dishonesty, personal gains and ulterior motives prove a slow poison to end friendship forever. Good friends always try their utmost to make their friendship durable and long-lasting. But some unavoidable circumstances, sometimes, force friends to part ways.

Good friends can never bear hypocrisy, selfishness and betrayal. When such menacing things happen, the friendship is endangered. Friendship exists in pure heart where hypocrisy and sincerity cannot coexist. This is the time for friends to part ways. Indeed, it is very difficult for a long time friends to leave each other. But they are left with no choice but to do so, for the cracks and cleavages appeared in their friendship will always sting them bitterly and hang heavy on their hearts.

Friendship is a union of hearts. It's one soul in two bodies. Once we realise that we no longer have the same feelings we once had for our friends, it's better to tell him and disassociate ourselves from him in a soft manner, asking him to forgive you for you mistakes. Although leaving friends cause a bitter feelings between friends, it's better to be polite even at the time of separation, convincing each other that this separation is better for them.

It is indeed very painful and heartbreaking to leave a long-time friend. But we cannot taint our friendship or defame it with hypocrisy, selfishness, dishonesty and prejudice. Conscientious people love pure and clean friendship. They don't like a slightest blot or stigma on their friendship. Therefore, it takes them no time to separate from their friends once they are sure that they are his selfish and so-called friends.

Since good and pure friendship is based on absolute truth, trust, honesty and sincerity, it is wise to stay away from all evil-minded so-called friends. A friendly heart has no room for any rift, rancour, grudge, bias and hatred against anyone.

So, it is advisable to end friendship once we come to know that it is biased, selfish and mercenary. But we have to end our friendship without hurting others, giving them our views concerning their mistakes in a polite tone. But we must be careful not to go beyond the limit to criticise the negatives of your friends. Who knows these friends may learn from their mistakes and come back to us seeking forgiveness from us. Here, we must show our magnanimity and grace to forgive them and give them second chance to reform themselves. But now we are cautious, for we don't want to be duped and cheated by our friends once again.

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