by Joanne Dillon

Created on: March 04, 2007   Last Updated: May 07, 2007

The most significant person in your life has GOT to be yourself. Not in a narcisstic kind of way, but in a "let's be real about this" kind of way.

In the journey of your life there are always valuable people. As a child, your parents are the most valuable. They nurture you, love you and guide you. They will lay their lives down for you and are they key people to introduce you to this precious thing called life.

As a maturing child, your friends become the most valuable people in your life. This is an impressionable time, and being accepted deemed most important to majority of us. Your friends are a gauge of who you are and where you fit.

As a young adult, your partner becomes your most valuable person. This is the man or woman you are planning to spend your life with. They represent the beginnings of your own family and are the key to how you think they rest of your life will play out. Until the children come...then THEY become the absolute most important people in your life. They will teach you about responsibility and unconditional love, hands down.

As a maturing adult, depending on your own personal situation the most valuable people in your life are either your spouse, your friends, or your family. Or all three. This is when I think we really start to come into our own. By now most of us have suffered heartbreak, loss and a lot of confusion. At any given time you will call on one or all three of these valuable people to help steady you and put you back on course.

In the end, the most significant person of all is yourself. You alone are the pre-determiner of where your life will lead you. Everything that happens to you in your life will involve a choice or a decision that mostly you will be making on your own. If you don't allow yourself to feel significant, then the mark of your life will be greatly diminished. To be a true friend, lover or parent you need to have trust and love for yourself and why you do what you do. Your self worth is an extremely important factor in how others will value you. Trust your heart, your instincts and your soul. Your spirit is a most valuable commodity and should never be broken. Don't beat yourself up unless you have the ability to realize it is just a lesson you need to teach yourself. Love yourself first so that all the others in your journey through life will also be able to share in this love. Make yourself significant first but do it with a humble vision. Just remember...to be a "valuable" person to someone else means you have to feel "valuable" to yourself.

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