by Amanda Ines

Created on: September 05, 2010   Last Updated: September 07, 2010

If you were posed with a question to answer and had to be really honest in answering it, which was - you only have one option, you can choose to have either 'sex' in your life or 'love' but not both, which would you choose?

This would probably be a very tough question because for most of us we would want to say that we wanted both. But if you try to think about it more deeply, at the end of the day sex cannot last forever because with age both men and women begin to find that sex is just too energetic for their tired and frail bodies, even with Viagra! So probably opting for love would be the wisest choice.

There can't be anything more beautiful and touching to see than an old couple sitting together on a bench in a park and holding their hands together while they watched a few ducks swimming along on a pond. This couple have probably been together for years and years and are about to enter into the last days of their life but they will do it together. They will both help eachother through any pains, disabilities or traumas that they are both about to have to endure and each one will know that they will not have to go through this alone.

Love has always been seen as being much purer than sex. Sex is something that is fantastic while you are young and gives each side of a partnership an enormous amount of pleasure but it is all very short lived. How long does a session of sex really last? In a very virile man it may last up to 10 minutes or twenty minutes at the most. So yes, that is great for both the man and the woman but then it's over, it's done and it's gone. But love goes on forever. It is continual, it is an every day experience and it can be enjoyed by the young and the old.

It has been known that some of the most romantic love stories ever told have in fact been about people that never ever got to consummate their love for eachother in a sexual way. They loved eachother from afar, they dreamed of being together but it never ended up being possible and so that longing that they had for eachother ended up lasting a life time. If these passionate love stories had been able to be consummated it would more than likely have ended up with their romance dying a sorry death. Love is in the end a very fantastic emotion and the more dramatic that it is, the stronger that it is.

Once a passion has been consumed it is very likely that the fantasy, prohibition and taboo that has been overcome tends to mean that not a lot of mystery is left behind and so hence the passion tends to dampen down. Passion is often yearning for something that you can't have and so that once that you have it, it is no longer so passionate. Don't know whether that makes any sense to you, but a lot of you probably know exactly what that means,

Those of us that are getting quite a bit older can probably understand all of this although when they were younger they would never have thought to think in this way, but now at this age opting for love over sex seems like the most logical choice. Most people loved sex when they were younger, but as mentioned above the satisfaction of it all only lasts about twenty minutes at the most, or maybe longer depending on the agility of the man who you have by your side, so the choice for love over sex is simply because a true love can last forever no matter whether you can perform sex or not. If you really love someone it can last the rest of your life but sex has so many problems depending on how your body can perform at the age of seventy and above!

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