by Francis Harris

Created on: September 05, 2010

There are usually plenty of opportunities to meet people in college - from those in your class, to the clubs and societies that thrive in college circles. You will not usually be stuck for meeting people; the trick is to ask why you want some friendship - then make sure you look in the right places.

1. Are you looking for an academic study buddy? Do you want to meet someone who can help you through your course, collect notes if you are away, someone who is up to date with the academics and knows the system, etc. If so you will need to spend some time in class observing who might be a good friend to have. Ask the tutor. Be honest when approaching the potential buddy. Let them know you admire their success or are looking for a study partner. And make sure you aren't just sponging off them but also help stimulate their success so the friendship is mutual.

2. Are you looking for someone who shares your ideology? Perhaps you have a particular political or religious philosophy and you are looking for someone who shares that. It can be lonely to be the only one who thinks in a certain way so recognize that you are searching for someone who shares your ideology and seek out places where you may find soul-mates - whether it is a religious group, or a social action club, a political party or charity organization. Go to their meetings, join in and find a whole host of like-minded people who can stimulate you along your journey.

3. Are you looking for someone for practical reasons? Are you seeking someone because you need help with a practical issue - to share a house with, or solve transport difficulties? You may be able to find formal assistance - especially with accommodation - where you can be sure that the clients have been vetted and can be trusted. Be wary of advertising a need on a public noticeboard that is open to abuse.

4. Are you looking for a sport's friend? Someone to train with or keep fit with can be a great basis for a friendship. Join a sports club or a keep fit group, or ask around those who stay near you to find someone to share a sport with.

5. Do you want someone for light socialisation - who you can watch movies with or share dinner parties? These are often tag-on social events of other clubs but if this is all you want  you can be pro-active and advertise a movie night, or invite passing acquaintances from class to a dinner party

There are plenty of ways to meeting people in college - especially once you are clear what you want from an acquaintance - and know the best place to start looking. Defining your need is often the most enlightening step and can prevent many disappointments. Remember it is also ok to let your social life take a back seat for a few years.

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