by Candace Williams

Created on: September 04, 2010

Men run businesses. Men run countries. Men manage financial empires. They pilot planes. They perform daring rescues. There are men risking their own lives for other all over the globe every day of the week. The list goes on and on and yet we wonder if they can be trusted to take a pill? Strange question to ask when looking at all the responsibilities men shoulder in so many places and in so many ways.

On the other hand men ruin businesses, shirk responsibilities and crash airplanes killing themselves and others for whom they are responsible. What causes the difference between a man with self control and a sense of responsibility and a man who behaves like a jellyfish demonstrating his lack of backbone in many situations? And how can a woman who is weighing whether to depend on that man tell what his character really is like? Aren't those the real questions and aren't men asking that same kind of question?

Tradition

Part of the issue is that the traditional way to approach pregnancy and childbirth is to put the woman in charge. But in most families it really is a shared decision. and it is something which should be talked about before marriage because it makes a great deal of difference in the relationship between a husband and wife. This is the root of the question. If a couple is serious about their relationship they  should talk about having children or not, when , how and how many before they get married. Many marriages dissolve over the issue of having children or not and how many and how. It's traditional so I don't need to think about it let alone talk about it doesn't work very well.

Communication

Now that the couple has talked about having children or not and how many and how and when and hopefully even why. If the answer is not, "Let's have as many as we can as soon as we can for as long as we can." then methods for avoiding pregnancy will be the next thing which they both should talk about. This is another thing which should not be assumed. It can be really helpful to get an appointment with a doctor and discuss some options. Then talk to each other about why you like or dislike the options the medical community has available.

Some like the male birth control pill may be in the developmental stage and not actually available. If so it doesn't really matter if the husband would be dependable if he were asked to take a pill regularly if it isn't available at this time. It's all just hypothetical. What really will matter to the couple is to evaluate

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