by Vicki Merritt

Created on: August 31, 2010   Last Updated: September 01, 2010

Scientific studies of male and female brains have shown they do not process information in the same way.  It is my contention that this has much to do with behavioral differences in function, and cause and effect reasoning differences between how men "act" vs how women act.

Putting that aside, I contend that men simply use "what works" to obtain what they perceive as a "goal", with little foresight beyond that which is required to obtain success in getting to the goal.  Men have reasoned, from juvenile experiences that appealing to the maternal instinct in women is quite successful in obtaining what they want from women.

The maternal instinct in women is very hard for women to override, even in spite of their thinking, not feeling brain judgment. It is my contention that men have learned appealing to the maternal works to get them what they want. In accordance with this knowledge they begin to act like babies to get what they want.  It is very logical in men logic. 

Initially and far too frequently this works....until women get tired of the immaturity, or find in addition to having a man acting like a baby, the exhaustion and self sacrifice creeps in to the woman's life as if she were raising a baby.

The usual and predictable outcome of her resistance to such an inequitable exchange, she is now capable of making an attempt to turn off the maternal as it begins to dawn on her it is time for the baby to be weaned off such demanding and self centered ways. All this is natural for the woman even with a true baby. One day she realizes her mistake as she is dealing with an adult that has reverted to behaving like a baby.

This causes men to rebel, throw tantrums and otherwise rage at being weaned, much like babies. The differences in adult males and baby males is that adult males can do far more damage by throwing temper tantrums and raging that true babies can, and so now a woman trying to wean an adult male from childish dependency or selfish attitudes towards her is compounded by a having to deal with a raging and very unhappy and capable of much damage adult male.

Like many mothers do, she now  finds the level of discomfort she is now experiencing is very difficult to end by meeting the demands of a baby, knowing it is not good for them, but with a baby she can retain control.  Not so with a childish adult male......who is much more capable of doing her, her children, her security and finances much harm, so she frequently has no options to correct her maternal mistake with this adult male.

In short, men behave this way and use such emotional blackmail because it works far too frequently. Society has yet to know how to deal with the backlash, when it no longer works for the woman to be responsible to cater to the whims of a childish adult male.

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