by TrystynLynn

Created on: August 25, 2010   Last Updated: August 27, 2010

Living alone would have been thought to be the worst idea especially after a breakup but it is the best solution there is to deal with one. This way, you will be able to face the hard facts of what has happened and reflect. Many would say do not turn to drugs or alcohol but to each his own. We all need our ways to vent and "escape" from reality but you have to come back down to earth. Spend some time to escape but always be safe.

Get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex especially if it causes you to have bad memories and heartache. But gifts are gifts. Throwing something useful away is to your disadvantage.

No matter how much partying and how many gatherings you have with your friends, you will still feel the loneliness and emptiness despite being surrounded by a million people who are supposedly there to distract you from that feeling of being lost. Unfortunately, that feeling will not go away over night. It will linger and haunt you and the only thing that can heal you is time.

We all want to have a purpose and we all want to be useful. You can channel that energy in finding something you enjoy doing. Be it art or music or learning something new. If you are a writer or a creative person, this would be the best time to come up with material. Channel all that emotion into a poem or a story and you can definitely exaggerate.

During the time you are alone, never ever feel ashamed to cry and suicide is definitely not an option. Not to sound shallow but by just thinking of that as your way out, the other party has won and you have given all control to him or her. Always push yourself to be the best. Using this time you should improve on yourself. Be it beautifying yourself or improving on your talents.

Never wallow in self pity because that will get you no where. Love yourself and then you can learn to love others. Be who you are; If people cannot accept you for who you are and want you to be something else, you can tell them to leave because it is not your loss.

One last thing is to do the hardest things you avoid doing like going to places that the two of you frequent. The best is to face your fears. Instead of avoiding them, create new memories there. The faster you face the hurt, the faster you will get over him.

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