by Joanne Dillon

Created on: March 03, 2007   Last Updated: December 23, 2009

Why do men lie? Hmmm...interesting question. I have had my share of lies from men, big ones....little ones....harmless ones.....put an arrow through my heart ones....and they all are hurtful. To be fair, everyone I know lies regardless. We would like to think that we don't, but we do. It's actually pretty stupid to do though. Someone once said something to me that make such perfect sense. He told me "Joanne, you only have to face the truth once". I never really understood it until I got older, but once I "got it".... it made amazing sense. When we lie, we have to continue with the lie until we get to the point where we see it as truth. The outcome is always terrible, because once the truth is out someone is almost always hurt, and your have then lost their trust and belief in you. But when you tell the truth the first time you are asked, then the person asking is able to believe you whenever asked. Granted, the truth might be painful for them to hear, but once it is out that person is able to start healing right from the start. And they will appreciate it eventually. And then you don't have to waste any brain cells trying to remember who you told what to.

But men lying? Well it is an almost ritualistic thing they do, straight out of the womb. It's organic. Don't take me the wrong way.... I love men. Good or bad, I love 'em. But I think they just go into panic mode. It could be to impress a new conquest....it could be to save a relationship (or so they think)....it could be to sound better than what they are (again..or so they think). When in actuality, the perfect man (in my mind) is someone who just is who he is. Faults and all. Let me know who and what I am dealing with. As a woman I will promise to give you a fair shot. I'm not your mother, you won't get "grounded" I swear. Because in the end, most if not ALL lies will be revealed. I will see that you won't be able to buy me the moon....but the right man...oh the RIGHT man....could certainly take me there.

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