by Ashleigh Ezra

Created on: August 22, 2010   Last Updated: August 23, 2010

Rejection hurts! I remember when I first got rejected, my heart felt so heavy and I just became lifeless for a moment but thankfully I have since then moved on and instead of focusing on the fact that I have been rejected, I focus on something else. I have to admit that it is a blow to the ego but what the heck, life has to go on.

Everything that we do involves rejection whether we realize it or not. It is important though that we know how to handle these rejections especially rejections that involves a matter of the heart, rejection from someone that you like.

Pick yourself up! Don't take it personally. Maybe the timing wasn't right. Timing is everything so being rejected by someone does not mean that there's something wrong with you. It could be because of the timing, for example applying for a job when a company is downsizing or asking someone out for lunch when they already had their lunch. 

Another important thing to remember is know that you are not the only one being rejected and what I mean by this is everyone gets rejected. There are many people in this world, all very different. Sometimes we get accepted and sometimes we don't. It is just merely an emotion that each of us go through so a rejection is merely a pause after which we compose ourselves and move on. Like I said, life has to go on.

What is important here is to stay positive and be calm. Remember that you will get depressed. It's normal. You will get angry and that's normal as well so give yourself some time to get over the depressed and angry phase. Compose yourself and just simply move on. It might be hard to move on but if you don't move on, how could you find individuals who like you for you, if you keep on dwelling on the fact that you have been rejected by someone that you like. 

Cry if you have to cry, let your feelings out because oh boy it hurts! Getting over someone cannot happen over night though but eventually you will (hopefully) get over them. After those tears, brace yourself and keep a cool head and proceed on with your life. You will have other chances. Stay open, be realistic, confident and maintain your sense of humor. Also think that perhaps one of the reason you were rejected was because they were never right for you in the first place. Stay positive!

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