by Gene Patterson

Created on: August 13, 2010   Last Updated: September 07, 2010

Flirting is simple, powerful and fun.  Yet somehow men often screw it up.  We can come on too strong and freak a girl out or not flirt enough and have a woman lose interest.  Often the first issue is guys coming on to strong.  Flirting is not a race to throw out sexual innuendos as fast as possible.   It is a low and subtle seduction.  The second point is just not paying attention to the woman.  She is likely to give you a sign when she enjoys your attention and wants more.  All you have to do is learn the signs.

The importance of flirting is no great secret.  How to flirt with girls is sometimes difficult for a man to grasp, though.  But it is very important.  Knowing how to flirt is simply one of the most potent techniques that a man can have in his arsenal.  To learn THREE great ways to flirt, read on…

TIP #1: Confidence is King

One mistake guys make when flirting is to do it while lacking confidence.  You are supposed to be boldly teasing and playing with her.  You lose the whole point of flirting if you do it in a timid and shy manner.  You need to be active, energetic and above all look her in the eye.  Eye contact lets her know you are safe and it engenders trust.  A flirty remark done with eye contact that is followed by a teasing grin is a great lesson for flirting.

TIP #2:  The Importance of flirting!

An important aspect of flirting is that it can help you break the "touch barrier".  When you meet a girl, you are strangers to have a relationship with a girl you have to get to a point where she wants you to and you actually do physically touch her.  Gentle touching when flirting is permissible as long as you make sure the girl is receiving it well.  Getting contact as early and often as possible without tripping her “creep meter” is one of the essential secrets of flirting, and certainly one of the most important parts of flirting.

TIP#3:  How to flirt with girls.

Be energetic and fun.  Being a dull quiet guy who just makes comment about a girls breasts is not flirting.  It is just sexual harassment.  You need to be full of energy and vibrant.  One of the big secrets of flirting is that when you are positive and fun to be around people will enjoy your company, then when you make flirty comments to a women they will be much more receptive and may actually desire you to flirt more.

Flirting is like Goldilocks and the three bears.  You do not want your flirting to be too hot or too cold.  Make it "Jussssst Right"

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