by Lisa Shaver

Created on: August 12, 2010

From the time we are little girls we dream about the day we will first fall in love, all the way to the day we will walk down the aisle with that same person never once considering that there will be many in between that first love and the walk the down the aisle. We dream about the kind of love portrayed in, The Notebook  or long for the fairytale Cinderella ending. We cried when Rhett Butler, who loved Scarlett with everything he was, said, "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn." We plan, we dream and then we wake up.

I love you is great to hear and it does need to be said, but can it be over said? Simply put, yes. We say, "I love you" because we don't know what else to say or do to show those words. The problem is that they are just words someone can say whether they mean them or not.  Extreme put out a song that sums up perfectly how overused this phrase really is called, "More Than Words."

"Saying I love you,

Is not the words I want to hear from you

It's not that I want you

Not to say it, but if you only knew

How easy it would be to show me how you feel

More than words is all you have to do to make it real

Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me,

Cause I'd already know."

Showing someone that you love them is so much more effective than just saying, "I Love you." Its easier than you think to show someone someone you love them. Simply bring home a single rose for no reason at all, just because. If your significant other is sleeping when you leave for work, write a note saying you will see them when you get home. Beat her home from work and prepare a romantic dinner for two.

There are so many ways you can show someone that you love them in a day. It doesn't have to be expensive jewelery, (although that doesn't hurt occasionally) it just has to be something from the heart, something that shows them you love them. There is a book called, The 5 Love Language, by Gary Chapman that helps you to determine your love language, whether it be, Words of Affirmation (not necessarily I love you), Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service or Physical Touch. 

Saying I love you becomes routine, almost automatic like making coffee in the morning without fully being awake. It has become so over used that one doesn't really know if it means, "your a great person and I love you", or "there is no one I want to be with more than you. I love you so much that no one can replace you in my heart". We want the latter and that can be shown just by bringing a cup of coffee to bed in the morning.

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