by Angie Lewis

Created on: August 10, 2010   Last Updated: August 16, 2010

What I am about to tell you is not a new concept, although you will not get this kind of advice very often when dealing with a cheating spouse because most people don’t think adultery is fixable.  But I am here to tell you that you can heal from the affects of adultery and be a better spouse for it.  If you are suspicious of your spouse then your marriage is already in trouble, why wait to find out if he/she is are actually cheating? Why not do something about your marriage while you can?

Stop Being Suspicious and Fix Your Marriage

If you are living your life in suspicion of your spouse then the marriage has an issue that is not getting remedied by either one of you. This issue needs to get remedied immediately before a spouse does cheat, cheats again, or you cheat. That’s right, you read that right, “you cheat”.

Are you still dating or are you married? I ask this because in the dating relationship it is almost a given that someone is going to cheat, whether emotional or physical—its engraved within the dating attitude. But in a marriage relationship being suspicious of one another and cheating should not be going on and married couples shouldnot be living their marriage in such a reckless way. It is wasteful, disrespectful, impractical, ungodly and immature and leads to divorce.

What Can You Do if Your Spouse is Cheating?

Jealousies, suspicions and cheating should be left back at the dating scene, or else don’t get married. If we are married then we have to grow up and be accountable, firstly to God and then secondly to our spouse. When one spouse thinks the other is cheating it usually means they are doing something that would merit cheating themselves by attracting the opposite sex.

Perhaps you dress in revealing clothing. Or maybe you chat with the opposite sex on social network sites or maybe you just can’t keep your eyes and flirtatious escapades in your own fence. Now who is the cheater? Is it the one who is cheating or the other spouse who is also cheating but they don’t want to admit it. In other words, it’s all cheating, whether physical or emotional, and do you want to know why? Because it is in your attitude, in your persona, and how you carry yourselves, that’s why.

“That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind. And that ye put on the new man, which after God

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