by Suzy kew

Created on: August 09, 2010

Having a strong and happy marriage these days can be a challenge. When you first met it was all about the two of you. Then came marriage and then one of you were pushing the baby carriage. Then perhaps, months or a few years later there might be another need for the baby carriage and yet another. You find yourselves amazed with your children and focus on being great parents. Along with working, your lives are very full.

As the children start growing up, your lives become a juggling affair about who drives which child to what sport or which friend’s birthday party and there is little time left to focus on being a couple and even less on romance.

You are both exhausted trying to get everything done including helping the kids with their homework, issues with their friends and so on. It can be very dangerous if you don’t make the time to spend together, just the two of you.

Couples divorce after twenty five years of marriage. It is shocking and happening more and more all the time. You focus for years on work and the kids and keeping up with all of that but you forget to focus on being a couple. The kids grow up and leave to live their lives and you find yourselves feeling like you are strangers.

Before this becomes the fate of your marriage, take the time and keep the romance alive! Here are some ways you can do just that.

1. Date Night: Plan it every week or at least twice a month. It doesn’t have to be an expensive night out if you can’t afford it. Just going for a walk and an ice cream will suffice. A nice romantic dinner would be better but change it up and do things you both enjoy but try to avoid places where you can’t talk. Or, if you do something like going to a movie, allow time afterwards to go for a coffee and chat or walk so you have time to be friends.

2. Love Notes: There is something especially romantic when your husband writes you a little note reaffirming his love for you or visa versa but it is more for husband to do this for his wife. Women love the little things you do for her.

3. Flowers: For no reason at all. Bring them home one night and give them to your wife just because you love her.

4. Hold Hands and Kiss: Showing affection to one another is very romantic and relights those sparks that you felt when you were dating, before all the chaos of marriage and kids! Simple gestures go a long way.

5. Compliment One Another: The way you talk to each other makes a huge difference in how you feel about each other. Be proud of one another and show respect to each other. Once you start arguing and saying mean things it changes the way you feel about each other. Harsh words and insults are not easily forgotten. Don’t go down this road.

6. Have Sex: So what if you are tired! It makes you happier, it is a proven fact that sex releases endorphins and put you in a better mood. You know it doesn’t take THAT long. Make the time…go to bed earlier or have a quickie in the afternoon. You will find that this brings romance to any marriage! And the endorphins are healthy for you and your mood. It’s a win/win situation!

It is work to keep the romance alive but you can do it you just have to commit to it but it will definitely be worth it in the end.

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