by Gene Patterson

Created on: August 06, 2010   Last Updated: November 29, 2010

Even in mythology nice guys finished last!  Maybe you have heard the tale of Sisyphus.  In Greek mythology he was doomed to an eternal struggle.  Every single day he would push a boulder to the top of a hill.  Every evening the boulder would break free and roll down the hill.  Poor Sisyphus was doomed to repeat this cycle endlessly, struggle to the top of the hill only to have to do it all over again.

How the heck does this relate to nice guys finishing last?

The struggle of "Nice Guys" is like the struggle of Sisyphus.  Toiling to conquer the women they desire, making some headway, only to have their boulder come crashing down in the end.  It is a sad but true fact that often the nicest, sweetest and kindest men are absolutely horrible with attracting women.

The Struggle for Women

The Greeks were a dour lot, imagining all sorts of mischief on those who disobeyed their gods.  They basically smashed down anyone who stood out.  They did understand the human condition, though.  Life is struggle and struggle makes life.  Part of the fun of getting women  is the challenge.  If you want to be attractive to women you must remember that and reverse it.  You must become a challenge!  That means that being “too nice” is working hard against you, like gravity on ole Sisyphus' boulder.  

To succeed you must work hard to put some sort of distance between yourself and her.  Let her know you care, be a gentleman, be nice to a point, but do not be her doormat.  Stand up for yourself.  Do not give in to her every whim.  Think of yourself first sometimes.  It seems counter-intuitive but a little distance can make you closer.  Make her respect you, not pity you.

The Art of attracting women

After thousands of years of pushing a boulder, I bet Sisyphus was ripped and had a great tan from being in the sun;  he likely looked like a young Adonis but he couldn’t get women or keep his boulder up ( no double meaning intended there).  Looks, money and physical attributes, can surely help but are far from being the most important things in attracting women.  Most of it is the big “A”:  Attitude.  Being confident, sure of yourself and your place in the world, being funny and charismatic.  That is what women are looking for.  Know yourself, don’t be afraid of failure.  

Too much worry about failure impedes success. 

When you see a woman who interests you, approach the second you see her!  Any delay simply gives fear a chance to creep into your heart.  Women can have shark-like senses.  They can scent that lack of confidence in the air the way a shark scents blood in the water.  Even worse, if you completely lack confidence your chances would be better in shark infested waters than picking up that woman.  Nice guys have too often finished last.  Make the change, be a little less nice, a hell of a lot more confident and learn to succeed, with women and with life!

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