by Akua Hinds

Created on: August 01, 2010

Being in love with Mr. Wrong is really hard.  You know how inappropriate he is for you, but you just can’t turn away.  For some reason, you constantly feel drawn to him and you cling to hope that he is “misunderstood” or “confused” about his feelings for you.  That is why he mistreats you.  His confusion and misunderstandings about how to behave in a healthy relationship are the reasons why he is mistreating and even though he tries to change, he can’t help himself.  If these excuses sound familiar to you, then maybe you have been involved with Mr. Wrong.  These words look pretty cold in black and white but you need to understand how to recognize the wrong type of men and how to permanently keep them out of your life. 

I have dated a few Mr. Wrongs in my life.  They were inappropriate in every way; from the way they lived their lives to the way they tried to belittle my life and the lives of everyone else around them.  These Mr. Wrongs had so many things in common with each other I was starting to wonder if they were all related, despite the fact that they came from different cultures!  All of the Mister Wrongs were selfish and egomaniacal liars who were afraid to reveal their true selves.  Master manipulators, these inappropriate people refused to believe there was anything wrong with their behavior, even when their shortcomings were pointed out to them several times.  Refusing to change, they reveled in their conceit, believing they were a gift that any woman would want at any time.  They were wrong.  Eventually, any woman with an ounce of sense will wake up and realize that men like that are not dreamboats.  Rather, they are self-destructive nightmares who wreak havoc on other people’s lives. 

Fortunately, I have dated a few Mr. Rights and contrary to what you may believe, good men are not hard to find.  Mr. Right returns your telephone calls or texts within 24 hours.  He shows an interest in getting to know you and spending time with you.  He promises to change his behavior if he steps out of line and he makes an effort to show you that he means it.  Mr. Right is also unafraid to express his love for you and make you a priority.  If the man you are with is not doing any of these things, he is NOT Mr. Right.  He is not even a Mr. Right Now.  He is a Mr. Wrong in the making and you need to let him go.  The sooner you quit making excuses for Mr. Wrong, the faster you can make a true love connection with Mr. Right.

If you have had several relationships with Mr. Wrongs, don’t despair.  Your luck and your love life can certainly improve and you can find Mr. Right.  Perhaps the whole point of you experiencing a relationship with your Mr. Wrong was so that you will be more appreciative when Mr. Right makes an appearance in your life.  However, you need to be ready when Mr. Right comes your way- do your best not to behave like a Miss Wrong and mistreat your Mr. Right because he might not tolerate disrespect from you and leave you, causing you to regret your actions.  Each relationship has learning lessons, so if you learn one thing from your relationship with Mr. Wrong, let it be that you don’t want to treat someone else the same way he treated you.

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