When relationships break, for whatever reason, especially long term relationships, someone will inevitably be hurt. In some cases, both parties are deeply affected by the failure of the relationship. However, there are some general tips for causing the least amount of damage to a person you truly care about, but can no longer be in a relationship with.

1. Be honest: Look inside of yourself and understand that although it may be difficult or awkward to express your inner most thoughts and feelings, opening yourself up this way will probably show your former partner that you care enough about them and trust them enough to put yourself in a vulnerable position when cutting ties with them, rather than exalting yourself and throwing around phrases like "I'm the best you'll ever have."

2. Be discriminating: Just because you are honest doesn't mean you have to be brutally honest. Avoid statements that begin with "you," they often place unnecessary blame on the other person and can make them feel as though they are being judged. You want them to know that you are not judging them as a person, you simply (for whatever reason) don't think it will work.

3. Explain: Everyone who has been dumped and has a hard time getting over it does so primarily because they become consumed with analyzing the reasons why the relationship failed in their heads. This can often lead to a lot of self-criticism and low self-esteem. If you want to avoid being the cause of this downward spiral, offer your former partner an explanation, your explanation, as to why you feel that you are unhappy in the relationship.

4. Be Sensitive: Remember that if you're doing the breaking up, you're probably the one who is unhappy in the relationship, so be sensitive to your partner's feelings or reactions, especially if this is coming as a surprise to them. If they ask for space or time away from you, give it to them. If they beg you to stay, don't stay out of guilt, it will only end up hurting them more in the long run. Do your best to comfort them, but then give them the space that they need to grieve over the loss of your relationship. Don't immediately try to be friends or jump into a friendship with them after.

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