by Krissandra Claire Aguilus

Created on: July 31, 2010

TRUST vs. MISTRUST

 Trust is a very powerful word. It is not only something that we feel to people significant in our lives but it also plays a role in everything we do in our lives.

 I was once asked what my prerequisites in having a serious relationship.  And my top three were, Honesty, trust and love. When I was younger it never occurred to me that there are people who can be very important in your life but have the capabilities of breaking your trust hence breaking your heart.

 I used to have the feeling of having the courage to jump head on to anything with the urging of people I love without so much of an issue regarding my safety or security. But at an early age I was exposed to people who brought me to reality that it is keen to be a little skeptic.

I experienced being betrayed by a close friend of mine, I was only 11 years old at that time and I can vividly remember what happened. She was starting a rumor about are classmate “April”, and I was just merely listening to her. The next day, “April” went to class crying and looking at me angrily. As it turned out someone overheard my friend telling all the rumors and she pointed me as the source of all the gossips. My teacher immediately interrogated me in front of the class and embarrassed me for being such a gossip. I wanted to save my face but the teacher never listened, I was so embarrassed that I just cried my way home. That was my very first trust lesson.

 My close friend, someone I grew up with started talking against me behind my back, something that nearly stained my image. Luckily for me I was able to face it all without explaining anything to anyone. Truth just found its way without so much of my prodding. I also had my first boyfriend who has been dishonest with me a plenty of times. But I still gave him the benefit of the doubt. Only to find out that he really has the habit of lying until I can no longer bear all his lies and left him.

 All of those experiences made me very cynical. I have major trust issues. But I realized that not everyone is out there to be a part of your life just to hurt you. You have to adapt and overcome. 1 person may have hurt you but not all would. It is ok to question one’s intention but not to the extent of being so radical. There are so many example of people who you can trust your life with, may it be your parents, your sister or even your closest friends. We are humans and we have weaknesses, some made the mistake of destroying your concept of trust but we have to stand up and be strong believing that we are all created by God therefore we all have natural goodness in each of our hearts.

 If we continue the journey of mistrust we will be contained in a self-built prison, we will never have the courage to go out of our way, take risks and grow. By trusting we may or may not be hurt but sometimes all that is left for us is to close our eyes tightly, jump and hope for the best.

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