by Rex Coker

Created on: July 30, 2010   Last Updated: September 22, 2010

Communicating with a negative person can affect you. Being around a negative person seems to throw your chi off balance. The rest of the day is spent trying to shake that persons negative thoughts out of your mind. negative thoughts stick to a person like glue, and chances are that person will be no more positive tomorrow than they were today. Still out of politeness we stand there and listen but our hearts and minds are somewhere else.

 Of all the sins in the world done by ordinary people including me. Negativity is the most destructive. You hear people everyday complain and vent their troubles to you. It is not a good thing to hear when you try to start your day off on a positive note. You can either stand their and listen or you can say you have to leave and do something. A good rule of thumb to tell a friend or relative is, "If you don't have anything good to say, don't say it at all." It is the only way to deal with people that want to bring you down with them.

For every one positive person, there are five others to tell you their story of how life has done them wrong. This should send a red flag up to the positive person to help the negativity go away. Give them a positive things to think about like, "God loves them." Planting one positive seed in a negative persons mind will change them or make them leave. If they want to change the negative parts of their lives it will have to be done with positive changes. With negative and positive people it is the standard of whether you want to be negative or you want to do something about the situation. If you chose the latter. Then things may very well look up for that person. If not they are wandering around in the dark with the same old things happening day in and day out. 

Even in the worst situations of burdening debt, and having no job can be handled in a way that can produce positive things in a person's negative life. Just because you are burdened, and down in out doesn't mean you have to take it. Do something about your life style. The only way to beat the negative bug is to say I am going to say something positive to a friend or love one today. This will only work with a person that is clear minded and not on drugs or alcohol. Negativity in these type of people can be dangerous if handled the wrong way. You have to approach a person of any type of addiction with care. Even positive things you say to them can make them think harmful thoughts, and send them over the edge. If you meet a person that has hit rock bottom with their negative situation then it may be wise to get them professional help. The addictive negative people have to be re-programed from their way of thinking. 

The most negative people that do find help often slip back into their old ways of thinking because they feel sorry for themselves. They have no drive to do anything creative or think outside the box on how to better their miserable lives. Well if the old way in not working then why not try something different like get a job if you can pass the drug test or stop drinking to improve your alertness on the job. Try anything at least once to get out of the situation you are in. Communication with negative people does not have to bring you down. You can still talk to the person, and hope that what you say will help. The rest is entirely up to the negative person to change. There is hope for the negative person but they have to want to help themselves first.

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