by David Casares

Created on: July 29, 2010

Long distance relationships have evolved through out the years. Nowadays "long distance" isn't such a long distance as it used to be in the past. All aspects of communications have evolved thoroughly and that makes it a lot easier. However, there's a part of this type of relationships that has an advantage on others, desire. Desire grows stronger and stronger with each passing day when you're not with the one you want to be with, trust me, I know this. 

When I was a 12 year old, I met a beautiful girl a year younger than me. Everything went so fast and before I knew it, a week after we met, we were dating. I was euphoric, I thought I had found the love of my life and I felt so lucky because I had found her being so young, but we don't always get what we want. Due to my parents divorce and my father's issues at work, I had to move away to another country. I thought everything was ruined and that I had lost the love of my life, but our feelings were strong and that was the entire foundation of our relationship. We couldn't make things work this way, I always felt so empty because she wasn't around and she felt the exact same way. I was young and I didn't know what to do I had no idea on how to make a relationship work, not even a normal one. Things got worse and worse and we split up. 10 months of staying up all night telling my monitor how I felt. However, I do not regret living this experience, because it taught me how to love, how to be patient and how to be faithful. Maybe if any of that were happening today, something different might have happened, being mature in any kind of relationship is essential.

So, how do you survive a long distance relationship? First of all, I believe the term "survive" is incorrect. A long distance relationship can be just as rewarding and exciting as any other type of relationship and I also believe that this long distance  "obstacle", is very useful and can teach almost anyone how to love and be loved. Whether you've known the person for a long time or you've never seen him or her, what you feel speaks for itself. Second, a long distance relationship is not an endurance training. Simply because of the fact that you're not together, that builds an entire new world of strong and formidable feelings. It's not a walk in the park, but it's not torture either. And finally, the reward is ten thousand times greater, when you simply touch that person you want to be with after an almost eternally long time.

To conclude, how do we "enjoy" a long distance relationship? Well, first,  you've got to be sure that you're willing to love someone and then love that person with all your heart, wherever he or she is. Trust me, the reward takes your breath away.

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