by Rebecca Mayglothling

Created on: July 25, 2010

This article title is, quite frankly, shocking. Should anyone be able to opt out of parenthood? What are the circumstances? Adoption is a viable option, but who is to say either parent can just opt out? This isn't a puppy. It is a child.

Obviously, this title can be quite upsetting for some individuals. Serious writers can be brought to emotional states just reviewing articles written on the topic. Perhaps the question is easier to deal with if reasons are examined.

Why would a father want to opt out of parenting? Is there a problem with the mother? Does dad realize he has problems children should not be around? Is dad in a professional or emotional state where he cannot be a parent? These, among other issues, should be examined before a man becomes a father.

However, accidents happen. Therefore, once the little bundle is created, both parents need to access themselves. Abortion does exist, and adoption is a lovely alternative for those who decide they cannot deal with children in their lives. Parents need to consider these facts if they decide they cannot technically be parents. Ideally, this is a decision a couple should make together.

Again, accidents happen with those we may not care to continue relations. Fathers, in this situation, should not be able to opt out of fatherhood. The problem here is with mom. The problem is not with the child. If this is the situation, both individuals need to grow up and live for the child. Remember, the child did not ask to be created. The child only asks to be cared for by both parents. If daddy can't get along with mommy, get over it for the child.

Dad may realize he has problems children should not be around. Today, there is a wonder pill for everything and psychologists are everywhere. In some cases, states will pay for psychologists and mental health drugs. If dad's problem is physiological, fix it. If dad has problems with drugs or alcohol, facilities to fix these problems also exist in droves. Fix problems in that area as well. There is very little excuse for dad to opt out if he has issues children should not be around.

The last question to examine is dad's emotional or career choice. Emotional issues can be dealt with as outlined above, and there aren't many careers today which don't allow men to be fathers. There are many men out there who travel for work, sometimes months at a time, and their children still know they are loved. With the amazing technology available, a father can say good night to their child every night no matter how far apart they are in the world.

The answer is a resounding no. Fathers should not be able to opt out of parenting. Mothers should not be able to opt out either. As stated before, this is a child. It is not a puppy.

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