by Vanessa Ylagan

Created on: July 23, 2010

Marriage is not like porridge that you can just spit out after finding out that it is still hot and you can't take it in. Marriage is sacred. It should be build with the right foundation. With right foundation, I mean : love, friendship, trust, understanding and all other values that will make the relationship last forever.

Some people say that we are already living in the modern days and we should practice practicality. By that they mean that as long the other person is able to provide you with your needs and wants then you can marry that person. Or someone gets a girl pregnant and the girl is afraid that society would hate or mock her for being a single mom, so she marries the guy although she never really loved him that much. Or the other way around, the guy marries the girl because it is his responsibility to take care of her, even though he knows he'll be happier with another being. Then later on, they'll both find out that they are miserable inside the relationship. But they stick with each other because maybe she already lost her self love and is afraid that she might not be loved back by another being or he feel pity for the girl.

It takes time to know a person fully. It is best to know who you want to be first before getting into it. Marriage is not just a game. You can't simply say, " I quit", when you've had enough. It is not all the time that you are happy in the relationship. There will always be times when you'll have problems and arguments about certain things. Your ideas might clash. You have to constantly work on things to make everything work. There will always be ups and downs, good and bad times. The important thing is you are always willing to work it out with the other person, and you are always willing to patch up things because of the love you have for him or her.

I have been married for two years and now has a  beautiful 9 month baby boy. I've been with my hubby for 5 years before we decided to tie the knot. It took us five long years before getting married because we wanted to make sure that we knew each other well and that we love each other that much for us to get into the commitment : for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, for better or worst, till dealth do we part.

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