by Barbara Kasey Smith

Created on: July 22, 2010

Tips for being abstinent:

*Here are some reasons why people do not have sex and it may be a good tip for you to remain celibate:  

(1)  Abstinence is often created in a child's young mind and conscience received from parental upbringing, religious upbringing, or the sexual education they were taught throughout their life. "No", this is not easy for some people but I know it did have an impression on me as a young woman and I'm glad it did. Some people's moral and religious obligations are followed as they've been taught and they refuse to participate in having sex.

(2)  A lot of young people respect their own bodies and their moral issues and they want to remain celibate until they are legally married to that "special person." Then again, young people are choosing celibacy over having a sexual experience because they do not want the problems that come along with a sexual relationship. 

(3)  Some young people are afraid of committing to an emotional attachment to another person because they have plans for college and a professional job in the future and they know this could become a problem and they refuse to have sex. Several young teenage girls and women are frightened they'll be left with a baby to raise by themselves and they'll be unable to care for the baby and they would not consider giving their baby up for adoption.

(4)  Many young people fear STD's and HIV and they shut down when they're approached by someone to have a sexual relationship because of their fear of catching one of these type diseases. They've been educated to the facts that can happen to a young person with an STD or HIV disease and they refuse sex completely.

(5)  There are a few young people who have had a bad experience associate with sex and this has had a mental impact on them.

(6)  If you're a young person, or an adult for that matter, and you do not want to have sex, get involved in something that interests you and focus your mind completely on it and this will alleviate your thoughts about having sex and release the constant desires your hormones are having on you.

(7)  Do not read or watch any movies or CD's containing erotic performances or nudity to avoid being stimulated or aroused. Make a date keep their hands to themselves. 

(8)  If you have a religious background, turn to prayer to eliminate your desires for sex this will help you stick to your beliefs.

(9)  Stand solid and firm to your own celibacy pacts to yourself.     

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