by M.A. Dal Cero

Created on: July 21, 2010

As the majority of parents who have raised teenagers can attest, most teens will be affected by peer pressure, both positive and negative, at some point during adolescence. Driven by a natural desire to fit in, to be accepted, and to find their place in the world, it's common for teenagers to be influenced by their peers when it comes to what they think, how they act, and the choices they make. While positive peer pressure often yields positive results, such as encouraging teens to study harder and strive for better grades, to become involved in extracurricular activities, and to take proper care of themselves, the negative side of peer pressure has the opposite effect and can result in a host of serious problems, including drug and alcohol use, sexual promiscuity, and criminal activity. Fortunately, there are steps that you, as a parent, can take in order to help your teen battle the reality of negative peer pressure and minimize its effects.

-Discuss peer pressure with your teen.

According to the Center for Effective Parenting, simply discussing peer pressure with your teen will go a long way toward helping him to understand the peer pressure process and the feelings associated with it, which, in turn, will make it easier for him to avoid being negatively influenced by his peers. In addition, developing a close relationship with your teen and keeping the lines of communication open increases the chances that your teen will feel comfortable and secure in coming to you for advice when peer pressure becomes problematic.

-Be involved in your teen's life.

Although it's important to allow your teen to develop a healthy sense of independence and freedom, it's equally important to stay actively involved in his life. Parents Reaching Out suggests that you get to know your teen's friends and their parents, be aware of where your teen is, who he is with, and what he is doing at all times, and encourage him to seek out a variety of positive friendships and role models. Teens who experience a higher level of parental involvement are less likely to succumb to negative peer pressure than those whose parents show little interest in their lives or allow them too much freedom and independence.

-Plan frequent family time and activities.

A common misconception among parents is that teenagers prefer spending time with friends as opposed to family. While this may be true in some cases, Parents Reaching Out notes that family is vitally important to teens, and spending quality time

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