by Pavitra Ann

Created on: July 21, 2010   Last Updated: July 22, 2010

An article all the married and the single should read to maintain a lasting union in life

I am wondering why I ever married you.

I am not new at all to the sentence above; I have been hearing it all the way since I was kindergarten. It always comes out from my mom's mouth with such an angry and regretting expression on her face. The sentence made no more difference to the mood of the day as it used to be. Most of the time it works as to mean “Don't talk to me anymore.”

It was when I was 16 years old that we had a real family breakdown. It wasn't the small fight anymore that day. It was a real fight with tears and my dad moved out that day itself. Of course I know what happened, am not a kid. Mom saw dad with another lady, holding hands. That was pretty awful and I couldn't imagine any other lady except for Mom holding hands with him. I myself was having a boy friend and I knew exactly how Mom was feeling. No matter what happens, I will never want to have my boyfriend hanging with another girl.

"How do I know if I married the right person?"

The question popped up suddenly in my mind that night after what it seems like World War III. I was lying down on the bed, unable to rest my mind and sleep. My mind was racing thousand miles per hour with so many thoughts popping out of no where.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. I remember how close dad and mom was when I was a kid. I remember walking in the middle with both of them holding my hands, dad on the right and mom on the left. I could almost hear the cheerful laughter and the love they had for each other. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You waited for their call, wanted their touch, and loved their sillyness. Falling in love wasn't hard. It's a work of nature solely. You don't have to work to fall in love. You didn't have to do anything. Guess that's the only reason it's called falling in love, because you are letting yourself fall to the flow of love.

But after a while of the relationship, the flame of love fades. The burning sensation is just cold now.  I remember how differently my boyfriend and I interact now with each other after a couple of years in a relationship. Slowly, phone calls become a bother, touch is not always welcome and your spouse's silliness that was once upon a time cute, drive you nuts. Yeah, I could see that’s what happening to Mom and Dad over the years.
It's the natural cycle of a relationship. The love is dull. In other words, you are bored with

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