by Christina A. Armani

Created on: July 20, 2010   Last Updated: July 22, 2010

We are not at liberty to allow or not allow our children to marry anyone.  Whether it’s right or wrong, we can’t tell our grown children what to do.  In fact, telling a person of any age what to do or not do will normally only push them in the other direction. Marriage is a personal choice that we make for ourselves and one that we must deal with. 

A lot of times it’s not the idea of an interracial couple that the parent or parents have trouble with, it’s the fact that their child is getting married.  While it may be hard to get used to the idea, your child is getting married whether you like it or not and you can’t do anything to stop it.  It is sad when your child decides to get married and leave the nest, but it’s a part of life.  The less you try to push or pull, the more they will want to keep you in their life once they get married.

There was a time when interracial marriages were seen as taboo and socially unacceptable, but we are now living in the 21st century and times have changed.  Interracial marriages are becoming more and more common in America and with more and more immigrants moving to the U.S., there can be no stopping it.  Interracial marriages do have their good sides since they teach you about other cultures and help you become more open minded.  Of coarse, it’s not where you’re from that really matters but what kind of person you are

While I do know pastors who will ask if the parents are fine with the union, many pastors or priests or judges will marry a couple despite what the parents think. When it comes to love, there is no such thing as race or ethnicity.  Love is blind and knows no boundaries or race.

When you plan to get married, what really matters is that you love each other and take good care of each other.  I know many interracial couples who get along well and a lot of them tend to get along better than couples of the same race.  My brother is an Asian who is engaged to an American and they are one of the best couples I know.  As for  myself, I am an Asian planning to marry an American and we are both very happy. 

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