by Kaya Johnson

Created on: July 19, 2010   Last Updated: July 21, 2010

No, I would not accept a gift from a man who abused me. Not only does that get you one step closer to the same situation, but it makes him think the abuse was okay. Saying no is easier said than done. When you are in love you are in denial. You never want to believe the truth, or realize when something is not okay. 

There would be no point in accepting his gift unless you want to be in an abusive relationship. Abusive men are not mentally stable and would assume since you took the gift you're going to get back together. They also have anger issues, so when he finds out you are not getting back together who knows what will happen, but I do know he will blame you for "leading him on". 

It is impossible to have a relationship with an abusive man because you need respect and respect comes from love and he does not love you if he treats you like that. The best thing to do is to cut him out of your life completely, and by accepting the gift you just opened another door for him to walk through.

Even when he is not physically there, he will be there is spirit every time you see his gift. He will never fully be gone, until you get rid of everything in your life that reflects  him. All he can bring is negativity. You deserve to be happy in a healthy way.

You cannot find love if you do not love yourself. If you love yourself you will not be in those situations because you'll know you are worth so much more, and do not deserve to be treated that way. It is important to see and know your inner beauty and if someone is ever covering it up, you do not need them in your life.

You have to look deep down and find some strength in you to not be tricked by his apology. Forgiving him is important for you to live a happy healthy life. Just because you forgive him doesn't mean you have to forget what he did. By accepting his gift it is all forgotten. I would never accept a gift from someone who purposely tried to harm me.

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