by Dawn Hawkins

Created on: July 18, 2010

Lying in a relationship will eventually completely break it down and eventually end it. It doesn't just destroy the trust in the relationship, it makes every element of the relationship feel like a game. Games are for children, not for relationships. If you don't want to eventually lose the person you love, don't lie in the relationship.

Honesty is one of the key ingredients to a successful relationship. If you don't have honesty in the relationship, you may as well say you don't want the relationship to work out in the end. Honesty doesn't always get you the results that you wish it to have, but at least you can't get caught lying about something. Stay principled in your relationship where honesty is concerned.

Honesty destroys trust. When trust is gone, you can't get it back easily. In the end, that mistrust turns into the inability to spend time with the other person without them wondering what is true and what is a lie when you open your mouth. That leads to the other person feeling as though there is no point in being in the relationship with a liar. It may be a long road before it actually gets to that point. There are stages that the person being lied to will go through.

The first stage is believing you when you say that you will never lie to them again. When you do lie to them again, your partner will lose a little more trust. Each time your partner begins to trust you again and finds out another lie, the relationship loses a little more ground. The truth is, your partner has probably already figured out how to tell when you are lying to them. They probably know when you are lying before you even open your mouth. For instance, your partner already heard about something that you did. You come home and don't say a word about it. When hints are dropped about it, you dance around the truth. When that doesn't work, you spill it all but not the way it really happened. What is the point of lying and playing games?

Your partner will eventually get tired of wondering what your next lie will be and why you can't just be honest with them. Trust isn't the biggest thing your could lose through lying. You could also lose the person that you say you love. Make a decision now on how important that person really is in your life, because when you lie to them, it will surely push them away.

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