by Tena Kight

Created on: July 14, 2010   Last Updated: July 15, 2010

Relationships that stand the test of time are the envy of couples across the world. The rewards that stem from a strong marriage are ever lasting. The “happily ever after” isn't automatically applied to real life marriages like the fairy-tales of our youth. The real marriages would need to say “maintenance required” after the wedding. Here are some ideas to help maintain a strong marriage in reality.

1. Communication.

Each person in a marriage is unique and with that comes different needs and wants. Communication with your partner leaves less room for misunderstandings. Also if you aren't confident enough to discuss your needs, then you're shorting yourself and your spouse the chance to know the true you. Respectful communication will strengthen the union and build the marital bond. Remember that part of communication is listening. Sometimes the one you love just needs to vent to someone that will still love them, so listening and truly hearing your partner is vital to a strong marriage.

2. Be considerate of your spouse.

You might not feel compelled to impress your spouse as much as you did before the wedding vows, but you should want to be a large part of what makes your “sweetie” happy. While the time passes and the anniversaries come and go, you are learning more about what your partner likes and dislikes. You can use this knowledge to the advantage of the marriage. A genuine consideration for your spouse's feelings is an expression of love that is more than the words, “I love you” can say. It is the proof that you love them. The things you do or maybe don't do just to be considerate of your significant other will spark compassion in the union. Compassion will nurture forgiveness for any short comings through out the years.  

3. Build trust.

Couples that choose marriage want someone to be there for them all through out life's journey. The wedding vows aren't just words. They are meant to be carried out year after year. “To love, honor and cherish” is a promise that when put into action will give emotional safety. Everyone needs to feel like they have someone that they can always count on to love them in spite of their faults. This doesn't mean you should pretend they have no faults, but it does mean you should acknowledge any faults in private with compassion and never in public or with a mean spirit. Married couples should be each others “safe place” and reliable source

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