by Jerome Foo

Created on: March 01, 2007   Last Updated: May 02, 2007

Look at the people around you, this very instant. Think about your friends, the ones you find attractive, and the ones you don't? The first time you meet someone, before they even open their mouth, you already have an impression of them.

How they walk, how they carry themselves, how they groom themselves and how they dress, these are the first things you notice. Often this moment is the make or break in the beginning of a relationship. Obviously, appearance matters to both men and women. However, for each sex, their importance is rated differently.

For some men, appearance can be the sole determining factor in attraction. For most women, however, appearance is one of many things they look for. How often do you see an attractive woman with an ugly guy? And vice versa? Obviously, personality rates much higher with women than with men.

However, if you are dressed like the world's greatest slob, there is absolutely no way the woman you're interested in will even let you close enough to show her your great personality. With that in mind, let's go over a few easy tips to remember.

Hair- get your hair cut, and use a good shampoo. Often. If you want to keep long hair, just make sure it's kept tidy and clean. Same goes for facial hair. Most women prefer a well groomed chin and don't want a hairball in their mouth when they go to kiss you.

Smell- It always surprises me the number of guys who don't wear deodorant when they need it. No less surprising is the number of guys who wear so much cologne that it overwhelmes all of the people within a 30ft radius. Wear deodorant, but don't use more than one, or maybe two spritzes of cologne. Also, NO BAD BREATH. Make sure you have a mint, or some gum before you go out... if she smells bad breath on you, she won't want to kiss you.

Clothes- Now you don't need to be decked out in LV or Armani suits, but invest in some new clothes. Take a friend who you consider stylish, to help you out on a shopping trip at a mall. Ask the women working in the shops for their opinion (remember, they're paid to be nice to you!). Get a nice watch, and shoes that fit the occasion. It's not only what you wear, but also how you wear it. Make sure that everything fits your body type.

Health- Get a gym membership. Almost evey man can get into at least decent shape with effort and self-restraint. It's not easy, but it's not impossible.

While the Brad Pitt's and Orlando Bloom's of the world have women fawning over them because of their appearance, most of us have to make do with much less. However, this is by no means impossible... if you take steps to make yourself better, others will take notice.

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