by David Payne

Created on: July 12, 2010

Familiarity breeds contempt .

Like anything in life you really can have to much of a good thing. To much of one particular type of food can render its taste a little to familiar. That craving is soon replaced with a mundane ambivalence towards said food. Music, that great new song that you cant get out of your head is played repeatably until you wear out your love for it.

And so to matters of the heart this also applies.  Saying "I Love You" is perhaps the most special set of words you can say to a loved one. One which releases that feeling inside you and gives it them. To hear this from someone that actually means it is one of lives great pleasures. Not dissimilar to being voted the greatest person of earth just for that moment.

And yet those same words if overused can bring a your house tumbling down around just as rapidly. Feelings and words are fragile and knowing this can give your relationship real foundation.  The best advice would be to stop using this phrase so frequently and be a little more unpredictable. Nothing kills feelings faster than monotony.

Less is more in the love equation and with a little consideration to your situation you can be Romeo again rather than John Doe.

Apply this principle across your relationship as a whole and it will greatly enrich your life and those around you. Make " I Love You" the mere tip of a thoughtful treat for you loved one. It may be cooking their favorite meal with candles and flowers. It may be booking that ticket to see his or her favorite artist. To each person it means something different. Think about what they really like and want and make it happen. Do it on the spur of the moment and you will to feel the words coming true from your heart. But do not get into a routine with these things. It is in these moments where uttering the famous line means the most and has the greatest impact.

And when you say it do not expect or demand the same sentence returned. Give those words freely and selflessly,. You should not give a present with expectations of a return. Do not fall into routine and be creative with your loved one.

Give it from the heart at moments of unexpectedness and your words will no longer be unheard.

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