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So, you find yourself in another relationship with another guy/girl that you can't trust. There are a number of factors to take into account here. First, what type of man/woman are you drawn to? Speaking for myself, I was always drawn to the "bad boy" or the untrainable. I wanted that challenge and with that usually comes insecurities. Unfaithful men and women do it because they can. It's as simple as that. It's possible that they've been cheated on in the past and thats their way of dealing with things.Overtime, unhealed wounds will cause you to "get them before they get you." Secondly, is it possible that you've become a prisoner of your past? Have you been cheated on in the past and now believe that all men/women are dirty, cheating, lying pigs? Realistically thats not the case whatsoever. We can't allow ourselves to stereotype an entire sex just because an individual or individuals were selfish and were unable to practice any type of self control. Third- a great deal of untrusting people are UNTRUSTWORTHY people. They have the mentality of, if I've done it or do it, why wouldn't my partner? Cheating goes much further than the actual act of sex. When we choose to give ourselves emotionally to another that can also be classified as cheating. Handing your number out, excessive and dangerous flirting, giving the impression that your single, and always keeping one foot in and one foot out of the relationship are sure signs that your relationship is heading nowhere and fast. If you know going in that your not a trusting person, maybe your not ready to be in a relationship. Take time away from dating to reassess who you are and work on healing your wounds before you delve into another relationship. Its not fair to you or them that their guilty until proven innocent. If you find yourself acting like Sherlock Holmes every chance you get to try and catch them in the act, thats not healthy at all. Relationships are built on trust and understanding.

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