by New Age Content

Created on: July 04, 2010

Everyone has been through horrible break ups and the worst part about the separation is you rarely know why it happened. You may have been head over heels for your significant other and they seemed to be reciprocating only to change and replace you with someone else. Break ups hurt the most, especially if you really care for someone else and they don't feel the same way. It is only natural to want some sort of revenge or to figure out a way to regain your dignity. Many people seek revenge to ease their pain by hurting the person who hurt them. Revenge is not worth the cost for several reasons.

It shows that you aren't a mature person and you would stoop to that level. I consider seeking revenge towards an ex to be a character flaw. Why would you want to represent yourself in that way? Why would you want to be that ex that just wants to get revenge over someone? Children seek revenge, not mature people. Besides, all you are doing is showing that you are affected by the break up and you are letting your ex get the best of you. If you really want true revenge, develop a happy lifestyle and find someone better. Show him and her that you aren't affected by the break up and understand that it wasn't meant to be. Control your emotions instead of becoming just like everybody else who operates from darkness in their hearts by seeking to hurt those who hurt you. Then you won't have to be seen as an immature person that is seeking revenge towards someone who just doesn't feel the same way. It isn't their fault and it probably isn't yours. If you were abusive or unattractive then you have things to work on and taking out your frustrations on another person only makes you more unattractive so why even do it?

There is no benefit to seeking revenge. It only burns your bridge with someone and stops you from connecting with them in the future. You should view relationships like a bonus to life. You are not entitled to be loved by everyone that you love. That is not how nature works no matter how much you want to change that. Seeking revenge is a useless idea. What are you going to accomplish? Make your ex feel as bad as you do? Hurt him or her as much as you can because they hurt you? That is what a child does. A mature person who understands the nature of love will move on and break contact with someone who hurt them instead of trying to hurt them back. Revenge never makes you feel better especially if you violate your own values in the process. The best revenge is no revenge at all, but simply staying positive, happy and finding someone better. Then when your ex realizes what they lost and try to reestablish their relationship with you, you can tell them politely that you found someone else and you love them fully. The best revenge is always finding someone better and maintaining your love for yourself and your life. Don't stoop to an immature level just because you can't handle the pain of unreciprocated love. Don't date if you can't handle rejection and loss. 

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